According to Dr. Sheri Meyers, a marriage and family therapist, there are several common reasons why people have affairs. The list of reasons is from Dr. Meyers, the comments are mine.
1. A chasm or emotional distance in the relationship. I can't emphasize enough how important it is to stay engaged in the relationship and remain connected at an emotional level.
2. Lack luster sex. Sex is like tennis (except a lot more fun and I hardly ever hurt my shoulder during sex) in that when two equally matched partners are 'playing' the experience is a lot better. If you and your partner aren't on the same page about the how, what, when, and where - one of you is going to feel unfulfilled.
3. Boredom. Get in a rut and fail to keep things interesting, and your partner could wander, especially these days with everyone having such a short attention span.
4. Changes in the primary relationship. If one of you substitutes someone else as your emotional support, and relies on them for strength and advice - I would argue that you are already having an affair, even if you haven't had sex. Emotional dependence on someone else (that takes the place of your partner) throws the relationship out of balance.
Four more causes of affairs tomorrow.
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Mark
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