If we were talking about cars, boats, motor cycles, lawn mowers - or any other mechanical device – we would understand about proper maintenance and how important it is to take care of “her”.
If we were talking about sports, we would understand that it is necessary to work out, to be in shape, to practice and that is necessary to execute a game plan or to build a team that brings about championships.
If we were talking about our careers, it would be clear that we are expected to “show up” every day. We would likely understand our weaknesses and work hard (possibly even take courses) to overcome them.
Like equipment, sports and careers our relationships need maintenance, we need to work out emotionally and practice, and we need to show up every day and work on our weaknesses. Why would we give less attention to our relationships than we do everything else in our life?
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Mark
Is it because we are so busy giving attention to all these other things that the obvious gets missed, and taken for granted? Quite often the other person in the relationship is also busy giving attention to work, the house, the family.
ReplyDeleteWe ask”Is it alright if I just…..?” the answer is usually “yes, no problem” because it is easier than saying “no, let’s spend some time together” It gets a routine in the end and everyone continues doing their own thing, the connection gets lost, feelings go, the cogs stop engaging. Nobody realizes what is happening to the relationship until it is too late and the easy running mechanism stops, the magic that was once there has disappeared!
I little bit of maintenance; lubrication to make everything run smoothly goes a long way. Stop the rust before the neglect and desertion sets in and the weeds start to grow around hiding the root of the problem.
It isn’t too late to start now. Get the oil can out stop the squeak before everything ceases and stops running. It only takes a little drop on a regular basis.
Christine