Beatles Week: Day 1

This week, I'm going to base each post on a lyric from a song by the Beatles.

"Help. You know I need somebody. Not just anybody. You know I need someone. Help!"
Paul McCartney (“Help”)

I wonder how many of us have the whole relationship thing wrong right from the start. If you think that she is in the relationship just to help you, make dinner for you, cook and clean and take care of your things – then you are sadly mistaken. If you are in that kind of relationship, you are either miserable (or your partner is), or you are very likely mistreating her. Conversely, if she thinks you are in the relationship to work hard, make the money and provide so that she can sit back and do nothing – then she is sadly mistaken, and you, my friend, may be getting mistreated.

Our relationships will benefit if we approach them like we’re on a Coast Guard mission, rather than a cruise ship. If we’re in the relationship to help, to serve and to work, it will be a lot smoother sailing than if all we want to do is sit on the deck by the pool and wait for someone to bring us a drink. But don’t get me wrong – because all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. We definitely need to build fun and relaxation into the relationship. But we also need to be willing to roll up our sleeves and do some hard work.

Marriage, whether by ceremony or common law is about being a team and having a formal partnership. It’s about looking out for each other, caring for each other and taking care of each other – equally.

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Mark