We all have different communication styles, and different styles work for different relationships. So it's very difficult for me to give specific advice on what communication style will work for you. But here are some useful communication tips that will work, regardless of your style.
1. Let's start with how I end each blog: Stay in touch. I know, you see and talk to each other every day. But are you in touch? Do you know what she's feeling? Do you know what's on her mind? What might she be concerned or anxious about? Stay connected to each other emotionally.
2. Reaffirm your love. Using whatever style works in your relationship, make sure she is reminded daily that you love her. Tell her, leave her notes - whatever you want - just do it.
3. Be respectful, even when you disagree. Ouch. I fail at this. It's ok to disagree. It's ok to get angry at your partner. But please, don't lash out.
4. Make time to talk. I'm not talking about soccer schedules, kid's routines or reminders about taking out the trash. I mean real conversation. Talk about each other, how you feel, the whole bit. It will help you with tip #1, staying in touch. Take walks together, go for a bike ride together, or just lay in bed and talk. It doesn't hurt, honest.
Communicating openly is critical to any relationship. Let her know what's on your mind (she shouldn't have to guess) and learn more about what she's thinking. Your relationship will benefit from it.
Stay in touch -
Mark
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