Continuing with yesterday's topic - here are some tips to help recover your relationship or, if done early, prevent your relationship from falling apart.
- Focus on your partner's qualities. Pay particular attention to the things that made you fall in love with her. I understand that people change over time, but rarely is it such a drastic transformation that you can't find that person in there somewhere. This will help you be more positive towards her.
- Tell her about it. When you focus on her qualities, mention them to her. "I love how you handle the kids", "you really make me smile", "I love it when you do your hair like that". Focus on the positive things and tell her. But if your relationship is in trouble, don't expect this 'lip service' to make her melt. Don't worry about her reaction to your comments. Just keep making them.
- Watch the negativity. It isn't your job to correct her when she says something wrong. Don't be a nag. Negative comments chip away at the relationship.
The next 3 are really important!
- Help! Love the Beatles reference. Help her any way you can. If she is busy doing chores, get up and do them with her. If something is broken, fix it - stop putting it off. Oh...and don't just do this for a day or two and expect it to solve the problems. This should become part of your routine, part of your relationship. Too much work you say? Then get ready to be single.
- Touch her. Hold her hand when you're walking or riding somewhere together. Touch her back as you walk by. Kiss her good morning, goodbye and hello. If your relationship is on the rocks, she make feel like you are just after sex. Don't press it. These touches are just affirmation of your affection.
- Make time to be together and listen. I don't mean 2 hours every night watching TV. That isn't quality time. Do things together and listen to what she says. Listen to her. Respond to what she says. If she says her feet are sore from being on them all day, offer to rub her feet. If she says her day is hectic, offer to help with something.
Guys, if your relationship is in trouble, it didn't happen over night. Likewise, it isn't going to be fixed over night. Stay the course and stick with this plan. Tweak it here and there once you see what really works in your relationship.
If your relationship is fine, do these things anyhow - and increase the wow factor!
Stay in touch -
Mark
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