You've heard the expression "talk is cheap", and it rings true. You can tell her you love her, tell her she's special and that you're glad you married her all you want. But if sit on your rear end all day and do nothing to help, it's just empty talk.
But that's black and white. Let me gray things up for you a bit. Lets say you don't just sit around and do nothing. You pitch in here and there. Or when she asks, you get up and help. Good. That's a start. But you're still not doing all you can do.
This is a two step process, but it's easy.
1. Listen/Observe. She'll say specific things that she needs help with, without coming right out and asking for help. Things like "oh I have to pick up such and such, I can't forget to do that." Or "I can't believe how much there is to get done." Things like that are your clue to get engaged, kick in and help.
2. Don't wait for a specific request to help. It may never come. Offer to pick up such and such, or help with the list. Pay attention to what she has on her plate, and initiate the offer to help.
Listen/Observe and initiate. It will make a huge impact on your relationship!
Stay in touch -
Mark
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