Do you remember the Bruce Willis movie "The Kid"? There's a scene where he asks how many time do you have to be called a jerk before it's true. Well, here's the thing...
If you have a specific trait or characteristic, and people independently approach you about it, you most likely need to pay attention to what they're saying and change your behavior.
If you're in a relationship with someone, and several of your friends approach you with similar concerns about your partner, as hard as it might be - you need to listen.
This is very different from running your life by consensus, or going out of your way to please other people. If a number of people, independently see something consistently, then it deserves your attention.
People are often uncomfortable approaching their friends about something negative. If several people are coming to you, you need to realize that what they are saying is very important.
Similarly, if your partner is repeating the same concerns to you over and over, you need to listen. Don't consider it nagging, consider it that you are getting multiple chances to correct something that is bothering her.
So, whether it's about you or a partner, it's a good idea to remember that the people around you care, and you should probably listen.
Stay in touch -
Mark
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