Are You Doing "It" Right?

Guys don't really enjoy being told how to do something.
And we don't like being told we're not doing something right.
But when it comes to sex - now there's a hot button.
But really, sex is about BOTH of you, and if you're not doing something right, you really need to know.

First, let me be clear. I don't want this to turn into an annual performance review. "John, we need to work on some long term goals regarding your performance." Most of what you need to know is being communicated during sex. If you're unclear, ask.

Does she respond well when you do a certain thing a certain way?
Does she move away from something else when you do it?
Are you even paying attention???
Listen to her. Is she clearly enjoying this or that, or just going through the motions?

Try this: Just as things are getting going, ask her what she wants. "Tonight is all about you - what can I do for you?" As long as she doesn't say "leave me alone so I can get some sleep", you're good to go. Pay attention to what she likes and make sure it becomes a regular part of your routine.

If you don't know how to do something - it's ok to ask. It may not be the easiest thing to do, but it'll be worth it.

Like every other aspect of your relationship, communication is important regarding sex too.

Stay in touch -

Mark