Talking About Sex With Your Partner

Wednesday is sex day at the blog - and today we're talking about how to talk to your partner about sex, and sexual problems.

First, it's a good idea that you don't talk about these problems just before or after sex. (And certainly not DURING sex). In fact, I wouldn't talk about sexual problems in your bedroom or at bedtime. Have a chat in the living room or at the kitchen table. This avoids the "was it good for you?" awkwardness.

One exception would be if, while you're having sex, she does something that you really like, you should definitely respond and let her know.

Don't cast blame. If something isn't working for you, approach it from the perspective that both of you need to address something in the sack.

Be careful in your "research". If you buy sex advice books or toys to spice things up, be sure to talk to your partner first. If she isn't into something, you could make things worse.

Openly communicate what your expectations are, what you like and what you're not as fond of. If something troubles you or if you're afraid of something, open up and tell her.

Here's my philosophy, if you're close enough to be intimate, you should also be close enough to talk about what you like and what you don't like. If you can't talk about sex, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Stay in touch -

Mark