Relationship Killers: Abusive Behavior

Well before we get into this topic today - I hope you had a great Valentine's Day. I saw a lot of guys out and about yesterday picking up flowers, getting candy. But you can't let yesterday be a flash in the pan. Don't be a one hit wonder, where the only day you get romantic is February 14th.

Anyhow - On Tuesdays we talk about things that kill relationships, and today I want to focus on abusive behavior.

How many times have we heard the story of a wife who is abused, but refused to press charges on her husband? That's because there is an emotional element to the physical abuse. Abuse is something which is tolerated far too often. But in addition to the physical abuse, there is also emotional or financial abuse.

Emotional abuse can take the form of intimidation, manipulation, belittling, or outright hateful speech. Financial abuse comes in the form of either withholding finances that are necessary to live a reasonable life, or lavishly spending on yourself to the point of ignoring your partner - this would include other types of abuse, like alcohol, drugs or gambling.

Honestly, my advice to someone who is in an abusive relationship, is to get out. (And this is from the guy who is all about trying to work things out). If you are, in any way, abusive to your spouse (even once in a while), stop it now. Period.
Or, kiss your relationship goodbye.

Stay in touch -

Mark