This past weekend marked the 20th anniversary of the offensive into Iraq, when Desert Shield became Desert Storm. The first thing on the agenda: Destroy Communications.
Because the coalition forces understood that if you can't communicate well, you're not going to survive.
True in war. True in relationships.
Good communication is essential on the job, in social settings and especially at home. Here are 3 absolutely essential communication skills every man should master.
1. Know what you want to say and communicate it clearly. Don't hint, don't beat around the bush. Clearly say what's on your mind. Don't let things fester.
2. Know how to say it. There's no need to be offensive. Speak calmly and lovingly when possible. Avoid raising your voice (shouting) even in disagreements. Wow is that hard. If you're angry take a step back and regroup. Don't slam things or throw things - stay in control.
3. Listen. Listen to what she says, what she doesn't say and how she's communicating to you. Body language is important so observe that - listening with your eyes. The ladies don't always come out and say things directly, so be prepared to read between the lines. If you're unsure, ask. Be prepared for a reaction if you have to ask too often. But tell her that you're working on your communication skills and you want to make sure you understood her properly.
Communicate.
Stay in touch - (thanks Chrissy)
Mark
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