Boredom in a relationship is more common than you might think - and it can be deadly.
We get up in the morning, go through our routine, go to work, come home tired and are content to sit on the couch and watch TV. Or we focus on chores, or the family, or this or that. Day in, day out. Same routine. We get addicted to a pattern or lifestyle that slowly stagnates the relationship. A lot of times people find their partners to be exciting and outgoing early in the relationship, only to find them boring and lifeless later on.
Men, let's make sure we aren't oblivious to how she is feeling. Pay attention to her. Spice things up once in a while. Go out, do things together. It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive. Spend time together.
Do the kind of things you used to do before life got so mundane.
Like so many relationship issues, this takes effort. Think about ways to get out of your rut. Plan ahead. And know this - I will come through this screen and kick your butt if you have the "what do you wanna do?" "I dunno, what do you wanna do?" conversation.
Work at it men - she's worth it.
Stay in touch -
Mark
Thanks Mark, you really made me see the light and I appreciate it. Before I read your blog I had no idea what I could do to try to keep the relationship from becoming as you say mundane. But after reading "relationship killer - boredom" I had so many ideas flowing in that I now have a surplus of different things to do from being trap in that rut. I started by making dinner for Christine tonight the first time in probably a year without asking her for suggestions on what she wanted,or how to do it. I just thought I knew and went with it. Dinner turned out not bad for a beginner but I'll have more practice in the days to come.
ReplyDeleteThanks again Mark for your words of wisdom, they really hit home with me.
Sean