A while back we discussed learning from our mistakes, and from those around us. But now I want to talk about situational learning - from things I've heard on the radio. Two unique questions asked of a radio talk show host, with my perspective.
The first is from a woman who has been married for about 2 1/2 years. She says that her husband has lost interest in sex. According to her call, they "do it" about once a month. (Yikes). Oh - the "yikes" was mine...not the caller's.
So you would think that maybe her question dealt with ways to spice things up, or suggestions on how to get him engaged again....but no. Her question was: "...so since I'm not getting it at home - is it OK for me to cheat"?
Several thoughts run through this little brain of mine - but in order to keep the blog readable, I'll limit my response to two:
1. This is a perfect example men, of what can happen when we're not meeting our partner's needs. Whether it's emotional, physical or sexual - if you don't meet her needs at home, it increases the risk of her looking elsewhere for it. And don't think this is limited to sex. Many studies show that women cheat for the emotional stimulation and romance factor, more than for the sexual gratification.
2. If the shoe is on the other foot, and you, as a man, find yourself in this same boat - and you are asking the same question - "can I cheat?", the answer is simple. NO! Cheating is like relationship suicide. You may think it's the only way out - but trust me, there are other options. Please - work it out, talk it over and find out what's wrong. Be honest and let her know what you're feeling and how vulnerable it is making you.
Tomorrow - another caller talks about texting trouble...
Stay in touch -
Mark
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