Intense Love

Mother Teresa said "Intense love doesn't measure, it just gives." I wonder if we ever think about what it means to love intensely.

John did.

John lost his wife Janet after an eight year battle with cancer.

A few months before Janet died she wrote a love note to John and placed it in one of the drawers in their house. John found Janet's note some time after she died. We tend to think of "silly love notes" coming from young naïve school kids, who don’t know any better. But this note was written by a woman who knew she was going to die, a mother of seven and a wife of 38 years. In the middle of the battle of her life, there was nothing silly about this loving wife’s note.

Janet described John by saying that he "Loved me. Took care of me. Worried about me."

"Helped me when I was ill," the next line reads.

She went on to say the he "Forgave me a lot." And that her husband "Stood by my side."

Janet explained that her loving husband knew how to express criticism by saying that he was "Always praising."

"Made sure I had everything I needed," she went on to write.

Her summation of her thoughts continued on the back of this love note as she wrote "Warmth. Humor. Kindness. Thoughtfulness."

She continues by telling John that he was "Always there for me when I needed you."

She wrapped up her note by simply writing "Good friend."

That men, is intense love, shared by two people. And the good news is that you don’t have to be dying of cancer to experience this devotion.

You can take Janet’s loving words and create a model checklist for your own intense love:

__ Love her.
__ Take care of her.
__ Worry about her.
__ Help her.
__ Forgive her.
__ Stand by her.
__ Praise her.
__ Make sure she has what she needs.
__ Be warm, laugh.
__ Be kind, thoughtful.
__ Always be there when she needs you.
__ Be a good friend.

What kind of note would your partner leave you? Love her intensely, and you will rock her world. I promise you, if you focus on intense love, your relationship will never be the same.

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Mark