Speak Up or Shut Up?

Someone once said that the secret to being a good friend is to know when to give someone a hug and when to kick their butt.

One of the secrets to being a good partner is knowing when to speak up and when to shut up. Speak up when you have a compliment or something positive to say. "You look fantastic", "I love how you look in that top", "your hair looks pretty like that", "you handled that with the kids really well", or "best chicken I've ever tasted".

However, you should shut up if you're feeling critical or negative. Think about the comment that you're about to make. How do you think it will sound to her? Negative? Is it hurtful? Then think of a better way to put it and watch your tone.
And if you've had a bad day, and you're angry - don't take it out on her.

Instead of saying "holy crap you're bitchy today", try saying something like "you're not sounding very happy - is something bothering you or is something on your mind?"
Always (I can't emphasize that enough - ALWAYS) be the partner...be on the same team and work together - especially in how you communicate.

Stay in touch -

Mark