I love to watch people. Over the weekend I "had" to go to Walmart for something and there are few places better for people watching.
Let me introduce you to Tony, Sherry and their 2 kids (Justin and Brittany). The kids are 4 and 2. Are these really their names? I have no idea. Is that really the ages of the kids? Yeah, pretty close. I only watched them, I didn't stalk them.
As this happened to be one of the "super" Walmarts, Tony and Sherry were shopping for groceries. Well, Sherry was. Tony and Sherry were also watching their 2 active kids. Well, Sherry was. Tony was too busy talking on his cell phone to a buddy.
I know this because Sherry and kids accidentally cut me off a couple of times. She was very apologetic, while Tony went right on talking, following behind, oblivious to the stress that Sherry was dealing with.
And that, my brothers, is the point.
As husbands and fathers it is critical to your relationship that you are focused and engaged with what is going on. Tony's conversation was about how he didn't feel well the night before and how his legs were cramping up. (People who talk on cell phones in public places tend to say too much). This conversation could have waited, while Tony got involved in what was becoming very stressful for his wife.
By the end of the day, I'm sure Sherry was exhausted, and Tony (other than his cramping legs) was probably just fine. If this type of behavior goes on in other aspects of their relationship, serious cracks are going to form. If this was a typical example of their home life - Sherry is doing most of this on her own, and her idiot husband is coasting along.
Be active in the relationship. Be engaged and be a leader, not another kid that is tagging along. Care about what your partner is doing and help.
Stay in touch -
Mark
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