I don't want to spend too much more time on this, so let's wrap it up today with this thought:
Everyone has certain things that drive them batty. And if you spend enough time with someone, you are bound to get on their nerves at some point.
Many (maybe most) women get ticked when men leave the toilet seat up. For others it's the inability of their man to actually put dirty clothes in the hamper. These are hardly relationship enders and if this is the biggest problem in your relationship - then you're doing well.
But here's why I've spent the past few days harping on pet peeves. Continually irritating your partner will lead to respect issues, compatibility problems and a sense of not wanting to be together. If the irritations are major character issues, the tolerance for this behavior will be much shorter than for leaving the toilet seat up.
Here's your homework:
1. If you don't know already, pay close attention and learn which of your behaviors drive her nuts.
2. Work to eliminate those actions and behaviors, giving priority to character flaws (lying, cheating, nagging, temper, etc). Second priority would be to hygiene and cleanliness issues, followed by general irritating behavior - like talking with your mouth full, or the toilet seat thing if that's a problem for you.
Work on being someone others enjoy being around. The benefits are amazing.
Stay in touch -
Mark
Showing posts with label Pet peeves. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pet peeves. Show all posts
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Continuing with Pet Peeves
Here are the top 5 relationship pet peeves according to love-sessions.com. Do any of these sound familiar?
Nagging - okay, we all feel the need to complain every once in a while, but when complaining becomes the main theme of your verbal expression, it becomes defined as nagging, and no one likes a nag.
Lying - No one appreciates being lied to- especially when the lies are trivial, unnecessary and constant. It is very frustrating for a person to have to deal with a lover who constantly lies about every little thing. Not only is ot annoying, but makes one wonder if there are bigger lies that they are not even aware about, creating major trust issues in the relationship.
Drama Queen - We are all capable of having bratty moments and taking center stage, but there are some people who always need to be the center of attention and make a huge production out every little thing. This usually become very irritating over time and makes the other partner feel like he/she has to walk on eggshells, making the relationship very unfair.
Indecisiveness- Not being able to ever make a decision and sticking to it is very frustrating. A couple should be able to openly communicate and make decisions together.
Promise Breaking- Nothing is more irritating and hurtful than a person who makes promises and breaks them over and over again. It shows lack of consideration for the other’s feelings and also means the person cannot be trusted or relied on.
I'll share more pet peeves tomorrow.
Stay in touch -
Mark
Nagging - okay, we all feel the need to complain every once in a while, but when complaining becomes the main theme of your verbal expression, it becomes defined as nagging, and no one likes a nag.
Lying - No one appreciates being lied to- especially when the lies are trivial, unnecessary and constant. It is very frustrating for a person to have to deal with a lover who constantly lies about every little thing. Not only is ot annoying, but makes one wonder if there are bigger lies that they are not even aware about, creating major trust issues in the relationship.
Drama Queen - We are all capable of having bratty moments and taking center stage, but there are some people who always need to be the center of attention and make a huge production out every little thing. This usually become very irritating over time and makes the other partner feel like he/she has to walk on eggshells, making the relationship very unfair.
Indecisiveness- Not being able to ever make a decision and sticking to it is very frustrating. A couple should be able to openly communicate and make decisions together.
Promise Breaking- Nothing is more irritating and hurtful than a person who makes promises and breaks them over and over again. It shows lack of consideration for the other’s feelings and also means the person cannot be trusted or relied on.
I'll share more pet peeves tomorrow.
Stay in touch -
Mark
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Pet Peeves
We all have them. Those little (or big) things that push our buttons, get under our skin and drive us crazy. Here’s a secret guys – SHE has them too. And like it or not – there are certain things about you and your behavior that irk her. And, the more time you spend together and the longer the relationship lasts, chances are you will develop certain habits or traits that will simply irritate the living hell out of the person you love the most.
But not knowing what things irritate her is even worse because it means that you’re not paying attention. And for most of us – you don’t have to read between the lines to figure it out. I don't think it's uncommon for our partners to verbalize it. “STOP! You're driving me crazy!”
If you’ve been told by someone that a certain behavior drives them crazy – and you continue to do it – then you are either worthy of a Bill Engvall “here’s your sign” award, or you just don’t care.
Amazingly, there is something even worse than being clueless to the fact that she is cranky at this very moment because of something you just did. What’s worse is knowing that something gets under her skin and doing it anyhow. Worse still is doing it on purpose – for any reason. You may think it's funny. I think it's abusive.
We'll talk about some common pet peeves tomorrow. But feel free to share yours in the comments section.
Stay in touch -
Mark
But not knowing what things irritate her is even worse because it means that you’re not paying attention. And for most of us – you don’t have to read between the lines to figure it out. I don't think it's uncommon for our partners to verbalize it. “STOP! You're driving me crazy!”
If you’ve been told by someone that a certain behavior drives them crazy – and you continue to do it – then you are either worthy of a Bill Engvall “here’s your sign” award, or you just don’t care.
Amazingly, there is something even worse than being clueless to the fact that she is cranky at this very moment because of something you just did. What’s worse is knowing that something gets under her skin and doing it anyhow. Worse still is doing it on purpose – for any reason. You may think it's funny. I think it's abusive.
We'll talk about some common pet peeves tomorrow. But feel free to share yours in the comments section.
Stay in touch -
Mark
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