While My Guitar Gently Weeps

A George Harrison classic.

"I don't know why nobody told you, how to unfold your love."

Do you know how to unfold your love? Do you even know what that means?
To me it means opening up your love to express what needs to be said, to do what needs to be done and even to feel what needs to be felt.

One of the worst things that can happen in a relationship is when one partner shuts down emotionally and doesn't share what he or she is thinking or feeling. The relationship becomes a guessing game and the two partners rarely connect.

Let me encourage you, as we wrap up Beatles Week, to unfold your love.

Tell her what's on your mind. Use kind words.
Tell her you love her and don't want to live without her.
Show her what's in your heart. Be extravagent.
Demonstrate that you're thinking about her. Do things for her.
Tell you you appreciate her.

Love her.

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Mark

I Am the Walrus?

Beatles Week - Day 4.

Let's see if we can make sense of this..."Yellow matter custard Dripping from a dead dog's eye Crabalocker fishwife Pornographic priestess Boy, you've been a naughty girl you let your knickers down I am the eggman They are the eggmen I am the walrus Goo goo g' joob."

huh?
I got nothin'.

So let's move to a different song - How about "Here, There and Everywhere".

"I want her everywhere. And if she's beside me, I know I need never care.
But to love her is to need her...everywhere."

Beautiful lyrics that show a great perspective about how to feel for your partner.

For me, doing things or going places is one thousand percent better when my wife goes along. When I go somewhere alone, I tend to think how nice it would be if she was with me, and I make an effort to return with her, so she can experience it too!

Am I able to function without her? Yes. But she's my best friend, I love her deeply and I want her with me...everywhere.

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Mark

I Feel Fine

Beatles Week - day 3.

Today I want to focus on the bridge of another Lennon/McCartney classic "I Feel Fine."

"I'm so glad that she's my little girl.
She's so glad, she's telling all the world."

If your wife/girlfriend was telling "all the world" about your relationship, what would she be saying?

Do you ever wonder what women talk about when they get together? Often it’s about us. If she’s talking about how well you treat her, how thoughtful you are and all of the positive ways you impact her life, her friends are going to tell her how jealous they are and how lucky she is. She'll feel good. She’ll be happy, you’ll be happy.

But, imagine the scene if someone else is telling your partner how her husband does all these things for her, and in comparison you just don't measure up. In this scenario it’s your partner thinking someone else is lucky – and she’s jealous. Do you think life will be as good? Not likely. And here’s the worst part - much of the blame falls on you – because treating her right is generally in your control.

Which partner would you rather have, the one who is jealous of how another woman gets treated, or the one who is being told how lucky she is? Which man would you rather be?

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Mark

You're Going to Lose That Girl

Beatles Week continues. You're Going to Lose That Girl, from the Album "Help!"

Words and music by Lennon and McCartney -
"If you don't treat her right my friend
You're gonna find her gone.
'Cause I will treat her right and then
You'll be the lonely one."

One of the top reasons that women leave a relationship is because they feel neglected, under appreciated and ignored. John and Paul got another one right when they said if you don't treat her right, you're gonna find her gone.

Maybe you come from a very conservative background, and you think it could never happen to you. WRONG! Sorry. Maybe you don't think you've done enough wrong to cause her to stray. Don't be naive. There's no mathematical formula for this. Maybe you don't find her as attractive as you once did, so you think no one else would find her attractive either. Don't be an idiot.

Treat her right. Appreciate everything she does for you, and do things for her in return. It goes a long way.

The bridge of the song says "I'll make it a point to take her away from you." That's another good thing to remember. There are guys everywhere who are willing to give her what she needs. If you aren't the guy she needs you to be, you just may end up "the lonely one."

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Mark

Beatles Week: Day 1

This week, I'm going to base each post on a lyric from a song by the Beatles.

"Help. You know I need somebody. Not just anybody. You know I need someone. Help!"
Paul McCartney (“Help”)

I wonder how many of us have the whole relationship thing wrong right from the start. If you think that she is in the relationship just to help you, make dinner for you, cook and clean and take care of your things – then you are sadly mistaken. If you are in that kind of relationship, you are either miserable (or your partner is), or you are very likely mistreating her. Conversely, if she thinks you are in the relationship to work hard, make the money and provide so that she can sit back and do nothing – then she is sadly mistaken, and you, my friend, may be getting mistreated.

Our relationships will benefit if we approach them like we’re on a Coast Guard mission, rather than a cruise ship. If we’re in the relationship to help, to serve and to work, it will be a lot smoother sailing than if all we want to do is sit on the deck by the pool and wait for someone to bring us a drink. But don’t get me wrong – because all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. We definitely need to build fun and relaxation into the relationship. But we also need to be willing to roll up our sleeves and do some hard work.

Marriage, whether by ceremony or common law is about being a team and having a formal partnership. It’s about looking out for each other, caring for each other and taking care of each other – equally.

Stay in touch -
Mark