Commitment

I'll admit that historically I have been a huge fan of American Idol. This year, not so much. I miss the old judges and to me, as least so far, it hasn't been all that great.

Except this story. Click Here to see the story of Chris Medina.

You wonder about commitment, see Chris Medina.

This story shows us a great example of what it means to be a great partner.
Chris says "I was about to take vows, just 2 months from the accident. Through thick and thin, 'til death do us part, in sickness and in health, for better or worse. What kind of guy would I be if I walked out when she needed me most"?

Thanks Chris. You wrote today's blog for me.

Stay in touch -

Mark

Because It's Important to Her (Part 1)

Here are three (of twelve) important qualities for a guy. Why are they important? Because they're important to HER. And...if it's important to her, it should be important to you too.

Reliability – Wow, I could talk about this one all day. Let me sum it up this way. If you say you're going to do something or be somewhere at a specific time - then do it. Be true to your word and follow through. This will insure that she will rely on you for the long haul.

Commitment – Going along with reliability is commitment. Never do anything that may put doubt in her mind about your commitment to her and the relationship. If you're in the relationship for the long haul, then your romantic and sexual focus needs to be on her.

Respect – The Queen of Soul sang it nearly 40 years ago and it's still true today. You have to respect her opinions, position on things, wishes and boundaries. Even if you don't agree with her, you need to show respect.

Deep for a Monday. You can handle it.

Stay in touch -

Mark

A Pinky Swear

This past weekend, prior to the wedding, my wife and I had dinner with great friends of ours. They were telling us about some plans that they have, and how they are going about reaching their goals.

They have agreed on a "two year window" to accomplish something significant. This is something that would affect their whole family, and they are focused on getting this done. Their commitment to each other was: A pinky swear.

I love this.

There are several excellent relationship things here. First, they agreed on a common goal. They set a reasonable time frame to reach the goal. And they pinky swore. Who doesn't love a good pinky swear? It's simple, cute and is something they specifically remember doing in a commitment to one another on this goal.

One of the key things I want to touch on about this is their two year window. Windows, or time frames for getting things done, are interesting. If you make them too short, you will find yourself under extreme pressure to reach your goal. But if you make it too long, it becomes easily forgotten. In this case, for this goal, they nailed it.

Here is a perfect example of a couple agreeing on goals, setting reasonable timing and sealing the commitment with a solemn pinky swear.

Stay in touch -

Mark